Why Your New Year’s Resolution to Lose Weight Isn’t the Problem — But Diet Culture Is
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How to Set Goals That Support Healing, Confidence, and Long-Term Well-Being
Every January, millions of people make the same New Year’s resolution: This is the year I lose weight. Gyms overflow. Diet programs surge. Social media floods with “reset,” “cleanse,” and “detox” trends.
And by February? Most people feel like they’ve “failed.” Again.
Here’s the truth most people don’t hear — especially if you’ve struggled with your relationship with food, your body, or years of dieting:
Your desire for change is not the problem.
Diet culture is.
As a therapist specializing in eating disorders, trauma, and body image, I see this every year. Motivation isn’t the issue. Discipline isn’t the issue. Willpower isn’t the issue.
The real issue is that the system you’ve been taught to follow is fundamentally broken.
So let’s talk about why — and what you can do instead to actually create sustainable, healthy, confident change this year.
What We Get Wrong About New Year’s Resolutions
1. Diet culture sells the illusion of “new year, new you.”
It tells you that there’s something wrong with your current body, your current habits, your current self — and that changing your weight will magically fix everything.
But this isn’t how real change works.
2. Diets don’t fail because you fail — they fail because they are designed to be unsustainable.
Most diets lead to short-term weight loss followed by long-term regain. Not because you’re doing anything wrong, but because:
restriction increases cravings
biological deprivation triggers binge-eating cycles
perfectionism collapses at the first “slip” leading to the “might-as-well” attitude
intense pressure creates shame, not motivation
the body protects you from famine (even when it's self-imposed)
3. New Year’s goals often ignore your mental and emotional reality.
You’re expected to change everything at once — food, exercise, routines, mindset — while also navigating stress, work, relationships, trauma responses, and emotional needs.
That isn’t realistic. And it isn’t compassionate.
**Your Resolution to Feel Better Is Valid. You just deserve a healthier approach.**
Most people who set weight-related goals aren’t really looking to lose weight. They’re looking to:
feel healthier
feel more confident
feel more in control
stop obsessing about food
stop feeling ashamed of their body
stop starting over every Monday
break the cycle of restriction → binge → guilt
feel like themselves again
Those goals are absolutely valid. But you can’t reach them through the very system that taught you to hate yourself in the first place.
Let’s Get Clear: Diet Culture Is the Problem
Diet culture tells you:
thinner is better
your worth comes from discipline
weight is the ultimate marker of health
your body is a project to fix
shame is motivating
you can “reset” your way out of emotional pain
And because it creates unrealistic expectations, you inevitably fall short. Then diet culture convinces you:
“Try harder.”
“Start again Monday.”
“Be more disciplined.”
This cycle isn’t just toxic — it’s exhausting.
And if you’ve struggled with binge eating, rigid food rules, body dissatisfaction, trauma, or perfectionism…it’s also dangerous.
So What Should Your New Year’s Resolution Actually Be?
Not weight loss.
Not restriction.
Not a new diet.
Instead, try this:
“This year, I will build a healthier, more confident, sustainable relationship with my body.”
Because weight loss may or may not happen naturally as you heal your relationship with food — but the behaviors and mindset shifts are what create lasting change.
What Sustainable Change Actually Looks Like
These are the things that lead to real transformation — not temporary discipline:
1. Reducing food guilt and learning to eat without fear
When restriction ends, binge-eating reduces.
This changes everything.
2. Tackling the perfectionism that fuels all-or-nothing cycles
Healing your relationship with food often also heals your relationship with yourself.
3. Building body confidence from the inside out
Not liking your body every second — but treating it with respect and care.
4. Approaching health in small, consistent, compassionate steps
Not harsh rules or punishments.
5. Understanding the emotional patterns driving the cycle
Especially trauma responses, shame, anxiety, and over-control.
6. Creating a sustainable approach to movement, not punishment
Movement that aligns with your life, your schedule, and your nervous system.
These are the foundations of lasting change.
And they’re the exact skills I teach in my course, Finally Body Confident.
Introducing: Finally Body Confident — Your Anti-Diet Approach to Real Change This Year
If you are tired of starting over…
Tired of feeling defeated…
Tired of obsessing about food or hating your body…
Tired of dieting…
You don’t need another plan to control your body.
You need a plan to trust it again.
What you’ll learn inside the course:
✔ Recognize the behaviors that keep you stuck
✔ Identify your body-image triggers
✔ Build sustainable, lasting coping skills
✔ Develop a mindset that supports true body confidence
✔ Understand where your body beliefs and values originated
✔ Reduce body checking, shame, and negative self-talk
✔ Curate your social media to align with your goals
✔ Set goals that are realistic, compassionate, and sustainable
✔ Create a life that feels bigger and more meaningful than your body
✔ Feel more confident in your body without changing your size
This is not a diet program.
It’s a mindset, lifestyle, and mental-health-based approach to body confidence that actually lasts.
🔥 Special New Year Pricing — Available Until January 31st
To celebrate the New Year and help you break the cycle before another February “restart,” I’m offering a limited discount on the full course through:
→ Friday, January 31st at 11:59 PM
This early-year discount is the lowest price this course will be offered at all year.
*Use code NEWYEARBALANCE for $50 off
If you want to go into 2026 with a healthier, more confident relationship with your body — now is the moment.
👉 Click here to join Finally Body Confident
*Use code NEWYEARBALANCE for $50 off
Before You Set a New Year’s Resolution… Ask Yourself This
If your goal this year is to feel healthier, stronger, more confident, more grounded, more at peace with food and your body…
Does another diet actually support that?
Or is it time for a different kind of change?
You don’t need more restriction.
You need more support.
More clarity.
More understanding of your body.
More trust.
More compassion.
More freedom.
And that’s what this year — and this course — can finally give you.
Ready to Break the Cycle in 2026?
You’re not starting over this year.
You’re starting differently.
If you’re ready for the change that actually sticks — the kind that goes deeper than a “New Year, New me” — I’d love to support you inside Finally Body Confident.
👉 Enrollment is open now. Special pricing ends January 31st.
*Use code NEWYEARBALANCE for $50 off
Learn more here:
Coming Soon on the Blog: 5 Signs You’re Trapped in Diet Culture (And How to Get Out Without Starting a New Diet)
If you’ve ever wondered why you keep getting pulled back into dieting—even when you know it isn’t helping—this next blog post is for you. I’ll break down the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways diet culture shows up in your thoughts, routines, and self-talk, and how to begin stepping out of the cycle without starting another restrictive plan.
This post will also include practical steps to help you build a healthier, more sustainable relationship with food and your body—plus a reminder about the special New Year pricing for my Finally Body Confident course, available for a limited time.
*Disclaimer* - I am not a medical doctor and this post does not constitute as medical advice. This post is derived from my experience working with clients, research and collaborating with medical professionals.